Hector denies his wife Andromache’s plead of staying at home with the family by saying that he has to fight in the frontline of the war for both himself and other warriors. First, Hector says that he will not see the slavery of Andromache–which would make him feel exceptionally painful–if the trojan warriors lose the battle and he dies on the front-line of the battle. To Hector, fighting with the Greeks rather than staying at home is a release. Second, Hector says that he has gotten used to fighting in troy’s first ranks. If he decides to back up, he will lose both his and his father’s honor that a warrior values because others will consider him as a coward and think that Hector’s father has a weak son. Hector’s self-esteem makes him enable to endure such humiliation.. Third, he appreciates his warriors’ effort of fighting outside the Troy. He also knows that those warriors have family members who extremely cherish those warriors. If he himself retreats, it is a betray of his warriors and their family members. Consequently, Hector has to fight with his warriors.

From the perspective of a husband, what Hector does is selfish and morally wrong because he ignores his wife’s need for him. From the perspective of a father, Hector’s behavior is also selfish and morally wrong because he gives up the chance of raising his young baby who needs the father’s love the most. However, from the perspective of a warrior and a citizen, what he does is selfless and morally right because he gives up his own family and decides to contribute to his country and fight with other warriors.

In Homer’s world, men’s fundamental value is centered around country. They think that the honor, the safety of the country, and the courage in the war are fundamental values for them. They think that protect the country and get the honor with any cost is the good thing for the society. However, women’s fundamental values start from a totally different perspective: their values center around family. To women, that all family members are safe and satisfied, that everyone lives in a simple normal life, and that everyone cares about each other are the most important values for them. They think that staying with the family until the end of lives is good for society.